This entry was prompted by a discussion on Wrong Planet. It is a clarification of points made in a discussion about perceived violence from Autistic Spectrum Individuals… I am not going to be discussing the original topic, but instead focusing on my opinion of Point of View.
I believe that there i a fundamental disconnect between Autistic Spectrum Individuals and Neurotypicals. I have already upset some people with my beliefs on why this is so, but I believe that it is an accurate assessment.
Autistic Spectrum Individuals live in a bit of a vacuum. We exist in a world run by NTs. The reasons for this are manifold, but boil down to a few small things.
- There are a lot more of them than there are of us. According to the current numbers, 1.13% of the population are on the spectrum. I believe this number is a LOT lower due to over diagnosis. (I discuss that HERE)
- Due to an inability to function in open (due to sensory issues, NT social rituals, and the oddity of NT interaction), we tend to stay in the wings.
- Due to the stigma attached to mental illness (If it is in the DSM, by definition it is an mental illness), many family members are ashamed, and we end up ashamed of ourselves and hiding.
- Public perception of Autistic Spectrum Individuals is flawed due to the myths perpetuated by outdated diagnostics, old books that should never have been printed, a misunderstanding of science, and continued flawed media representation.
“caused by injurious or destructive force: a violent death.”
When in reality, violent outbursts refers to the following definition:
“intense in force, effect, etc.; severe; extreme.”
|Context sensitive in action|
- Deceiving – obfuscating their signals in such a way to hide their intent.
- Mentally Ill – “It’s the quiet ones you have to watch out for” really sums this up.
- Another species – when dealing with dogs and cats, you have to learn a completely new series of body language.
“The uncanny valley is a hypothesis in the field of human aesthetics which holds that when human features look and move almost, but not exactly, like natural human beings, it causes a response of revulsion among human observers. Examples can be found in the fields of robotics, 3D computer animation, and in medical fields such as burn reconstruction, infectious diseases, neurological conditions, and plastic surgery. The “valley” refers to the dip in a graph of the comfort level of humans as subjects move toward a healthy, natural human likeness described in a function of a subject’s aesthetic acceptability.”
So, here we are, on an instinctual level, make them uneasy.
|This was one of the best examples of the Uncanny Valley|
Since those around us, educators, family members and our friends tend to accept us without question, we have come to expect it. We tend to have a small contingent of close friends… this means that we have people that accept us around us all of the time. We become accustomed to it. So, when we encounter new NTs, we expect the same thing from them as well… but we don’t get it.
At this point, I have used the word “arrogance” to describe our behavior.
“characterized by or proceeding from arrogance, or a sense of superiority, self-importance, or entitlement”
We assume that we deserve acceptance from the outset… We assume that NTs should get it. We assume that they think the same way we do… Ironically enough, NTs make the same assumptions. The problem is that everyone on the planet is restricted to their own Point of View. We are limited to the view through the warped lens of our own experiences and perceptions.
While other Autists will get it (for the most part) because we share the same mechanisms for cognition and behavior, NTs will not.
The reason I use the word arrogant is because we will expect instant acceptance from NTs and expect them to understand something outside of their context sensitive world… This is something that takes a lot of work to explain to them… It takes a LOT of work to make them understand (as evinced by the fact that this is part 57 of this series). The reason that it is arrogant is because we will talk about it and try to make them understand… but for the most part, a majority of Autists and Aspies will NOT take the time to try to understand NT cognition or reasoning mechanisms.
On the whole, we Autists will expect acceptance, but do not give the same level of acceptance to the NTs we know. We expect them to make accommodations for us, but are not willing to do the same… Or worse, do not even see the need for it. This sense of entitlement makes us arrogant… in fact and in perception. As I have said before, perception is everything.
A friend of mine on Wrong Planet brought up the following response to these very points.
“I can’t drive. Why? Because I’m overloaded with stimuli when I do, there are too many variables to account for and all of them have to be observed all the time. Normal people can do that because they’re able to process that information, I can’t so it would be dangerous (and highly irresponsible) for me to drive, not only for myself, but others as well. Would it be arrogant then, to ask for a ride from people without that issue?”
My response to this – that is the opposite of arrogance, because this is ASKING for assistance… NOT expecting it.
So… how do we, as a community and individuals, defeat this arrogance (either in fact or perception)? By remembering the following: The NTs we deal with in more than a passion manner are as bewildered and flummoxed as we are by our interactions. They need to know that we are all in the same boat. Tell them that you are an Autist… Explain your particular form of Autistic Perception and how it effects them… give them time to adjust… Do not EXPECT them to just get it. On the flip side, it is arrogant to only talk about our perceptions… And they will feel that way… SO… Listen to their NT perceptions, ask questions, try to understand them… and what’s more… TRY to accommodate them.
Remember… if they are your friend or attempting to interact with you, they are already making an effort. They are trying to accommodate you. So, return the favor.
If it is someone who does not want to, does not care that you are an Autist, they aren’t worth your time anyway…
Images in this issue SHAMELESSLY stolen from the following sources: